Message No : 34Sr.No : 1391/722
Question By : khalid sayed

 Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah.I want to know that is it permitted in islam to once see and have conversation with the girl we are arranged, with the permission of parents. And is it necessary that parents will only choose the girl to marry with?


Reply By : (Mufti) Jaseemuddin Qasmi
Designation : Coordinator Online Darul Ifta, MMERC 

It is better and sunnah to see the girl once before getting married her but talking with her is no allowed. As a hadith reads: ※Bakr bin Abdullah Al-Muzani narrated that: Mughirah bin Shu'bah proposed to a woman, so the Prophet said: "Look at her, for indeed that is more likely to make things better between the two of you."[Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1087]
It is not necessary that parents should choose the bride for their son. Nevertheless it is better that one should trust on their parents regarding marriage too because parents are the most sincere for us in our life as well as they know better the situation and they have better experience. On the other hand, parents also should not compel their son to get married a girl of their choice though he does not like her because it may be detrimental for them all in future.
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