Message No : 9Sr.No : 203/722
Question By : Hanifa Aziz

Aasalam Alaykum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu,

I hope this message finds you in the best of health and highest of Iman...

I am a muslim girl who happen to love one pious young man...
Due to the fear of commiting sin and obeying what Allah commands
us I decided to inform my mom about this so that marriage could take
place in a Lawful Islamic way... But when I informed my mom about this
she said that she doesn't approve of the man... She says that he didn't go
to school, not smart, he is my student and he is also poor.... My mom seems
to ignore the fact that he is trying his best to perfect
his Iman... He follows
every aspect of life in a way that Allah pleases... I want him to marry me
because he is the pious one around and has a good personality... I want my
mom to like him so as she can give us the blessings as you know marriage
can't take place without the consent of the walii(guardian) and my mom has
a power in convincing my dad to support her decision.... I am confused and
I don't know what to do... Could you please help me on this.... Second I'd like
to ask one question.... The man whom I want him to marry me calls me
everynight as we now live apart because I was transferred to another
office branch, in another city.... So is it an act of zinaa me talking to him

on the phone

Jazaka Allah kheir
Asalam Alaykum


Reply By : Mohd. Shihabuddin Qasmi
Designation : Mufti, ODI, MMERC, Mumbai  

In the name of Allah, All Gracious, All Merciful
Wa Alaikumossalaam
Dear Sister in Islam,
The answer to your question is as follows:

Most of the parents think always for the good future of the children. They want to see everlasting smile on the faces of their children and leave no stone unturned to build a bright future for them.

The marriage bond is one of the most important parts of human life. The life will become difficult if the partner is not compatible, in accordance with Islamic teachings. Therefore, the parents search the most suitable partner for their children. And the children should welcome the decision of their parents as long as it not contradicts with the teachings of Islam.

As far as your matter is concerned, try to convince the parents about your potential life partner and build your marital relationship with their consent. If they are displeased with your choice and you get married without their consent, you will not get their favour when you might be in need. Therefore, it is advisable for you to perform Salatul-Istikharah and then proceed the issue accordingly.

The potential life partner is an Ajnabi (stranger) for you unless the marriage takes place between you. And Islam does not permit to talk to the Ajnabi without any necessity. Since, every part of body has its share in adultery as it is mentioned in the Hadith. The Prophet of Islam (SAW) is reported as having said, ˇ°Every one has their share of adultery which they will meet without doubt: adultery of the eyes when they look at that which is Haraam; adultery of the ears when they listen to that which is Haraam; adultery of the tongue when it speaks that which is Haraam; adultery of the hand when it is touched; adultery of the feet when they take steps in the direction of that which is Haraam; adultery of the heart when it desires and hopes for that which is Haraam; adultery of the private parts when they acknowledge that which is Haraam.ˇ± (Targib Wa Tarheeb) Therefore, it is not allowed for you to talk to him either directly or through phone.

And Allah knows the best,

Certified by

Mufti Muhammadullah Khalili Qasmi

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